It’s not exactly hot off the press that being a mum in this day and age can be a very stressful experience – it’s not really any one thing but the sum of all parts that can leave us wanting to run for the hills like a werewolf was on our tail. But thankfully, with a few little tweaks here and there, we can reduce the stress stakes just enough to make a significant difference. So this Stress Awareness Month, I’ve teamed up with Rescue Remedy – a combination of five individual flower essences for emotional wellbeing and care for everyday life available in sprays, droppers and pastilles – to share these stress busting tips with you so are you ready….good then let’s breathe in….and out….and start:
Get up before you need to
Although having a little lie in whilst you wait for the kids to wake up might sound like a dream come true, usually it means you’ll be paying on the stress front as you hurry insanely to get yourself and everyone else organised before you get out the door, especially when the dreaded school run is concerned. So get up a little earlier so you can make your bed, shower and get dressed in peace, and collect your thoughts before the crazy starts because you know what they say…the way you start your day sets the tone for what’s to come.
Do it the night before
Although it’s so tempting to just blob in front of Netflix or scroll mindlessly through Facebook of an evening, if you used just half an hour of this to get some of the stuff you needed to do the next day, then these little things go a long way to make the following day a lot less stressful. Whether it’s doing some breakfast prep or laying out clothes the night before, putting all the washing away so it’s no longer hanging over your head during the morning rush, the power of eating the frog the night before can be worth its weight in gold.
Ban the smartphone
And seeing as we’re talking about technology, let’s talk about banning the smartphone at certain times of the day. As much as I love my phone, it can be one of the biggest nuisances and stressors in my life. We just don’t need all these unnecssary interruptions it presents throughout the day. Try turning it on Airplane Mode from 8pm until 8am so you can enjoy a full 12 hours of unnecessary techferance and see how different you feel….
Do what you can
We all try to take on too much these days, and a lot of the time, the stress we feel can often be as a result of the seemingly ridiculous demands and expectations we put on ourselves – says she who knows this only too well. Don’t try to bring down the moon down from the sky every time you have to do something. Just enough really is enough, and that will do.
Have some back up
For the times you really fill like you’re at tipping point, have some back up. For me, that’s a couple of spritzes of Rescue Remedy when I feel like I’m going to implode or quite possibly explode, or popping a Rescue Remedy lozenge in my mouth when I’m on the go and feeling absolutely manic. Honestly, you can practically feel the stress melt away almost instantly which in times of heightened stress, is gold.
Think about the big picture
It’s so easy to get caught up in the worry wheel of all the little things but really all you need most of the time to realise is a little sense check. I have a few of these including:
- It is only now (inspired by Sam Harris’ amazing philosophical talk which you NEED to listen to here)
- We’re not saving lives. Because most of the time, we’re not, and it really doesn’t matter unless you are.
For you, it might be something else, but make sure you know how to give yourself a good sense check when you need it.
Let it out
And when it all gets too much….don’t keep it in anymore….let is out instead. But I’m not talking about going into a cupboard and screaming because in all honestly, that can make things worse sometimes. But try breathing it out, writing it out, self-massaging it out (or bribe someone to massage you! mutual foot massages are also good) which brings me on to my next point….
Do some exercise
Exercising is great for stress but it’s a mental battle because most of the time when we’re feeling stressed it’s the last thing we feel like doing. Even if you can somehow squeeze in a 10 minute HIIT routine or yoga flow at home it’s still a million times better than nothing because it’s the getting moving that releases your feel-good endorphins so at the very least, grab your kiddos and force yourself to have a manic bop around the living room floor for 10 minutes.
OK this one does usually take some organising but sometimes when we’re really stressed we really need a change of scenery, a break from the relentlessness of it all, a different pace….to just get away from is all. Beg, borrow or steal someone to hold the fort and have a blank page day just for you, book yourself in for a day retreat, or just do what you love somewhere that you love for the day….and come back feeling new again.
It’s a sad fact that in this day and age we just don’t spend enough time outside but being out in nature is so important to our wellbeing. In fact, being out in nature has been scientifically proven to reduce stress so whether it’s to a park, forest, beach or by a river, head to where the wild things grow!
Which of the above do you try to do when you’re feeling stressed? What works for you? And what else would you recommend? Do leave a comment below and share.
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