As a mum, it seems we are always angsting if we are mum enough – are we doing enough, are we doing it right? Although after almost three years, my worries in these areas have abated somewhat, I am still teased periodically by the thought and the worry and guilt of whether I am mum enough. So for every mum who doubts it for just one second…this is exactly why you are mum enough…
Because there are only so many hours in the day
From the minute your eyes are forced open by the word “mamaaaaaa” ringing in your ears, you are catapulted into a crazy world of relentless tasks, thoughts, highs, lows, worries and schedules, until the sweet moment your head hits that pillow you have missed so much all day. For every waking hour, you are mum enough.
Because there is no real blueprint as to how to be a mum these days
Today’s mums navigate an unchartered territory where being a good mum and being a self-fulfilled woman in her own right wrestle and wrangle to take pole position. We know too much, without really knowing anything. We want so much, but can we have it all? The only blueprint we can safely follow is that where we accept we are mum enough.
Because you are the sum of all your experiences
Not all mums are equal, some of us come with emotional issues from our own childhoods, health issues, or unrealistic expectations put on us by our own families or society. Motherhood manifests feelings brought up from these chapters in ways we always thought we could sidestep. Make peace and know you are mum enough.
Because your children will remember who you are, not what you did
Will our children remember our smiles or our achievements? Will they remember our warmth or our aspirations? Our children won’t remember if we got the little things right or wrong, they will remember the person that you were when they growing up, and that you were mum enough.
Because you did what was right at the time
Whether you breastfed, bottle fed, delivered naturally, through C-section, co-slept, cried it out, baby wore, used a stroller, went to work, stayed at home – so long as your children are happy and healthy, know this – you are mum enough.
Do you have to remind yourself that you are mum enough? What else would you add to this list?