Hello and welcome to a new series on the blog – mum truths! In my quest to out the truth about motherhood, I’ve invited fellow fab parenting bloggers to share their mum truths in this series and kicking things off is the gorgeous lady that is Laura from Five Little Doves. So enough from me, and now time to hear her mum truths.
Hi, my name is Laura, wife of one, mummy of five, writer, blogger, lover of chocolate, trash TV and sunny days. I live with my 2, 3, 4 and 12 year old, my husband Gaz and our dog Oscar, up in Lancashire where we do our best to enjoy the good days and survive the bad ones.
Sum up being a mum in five words….
hardest thing I’ve ever done.
What did you wish you knew before having children?
I wish I had known that listening to my gut instinct would far out weigh any advice from friends, family, midwives or health visitors. I wish I hadn’t put so much pressure on myself to conform to the “perfect parent”, that I had thrown away the rule book and simply let my baby lead the way. I think had I known that with my eldest, my battle with PND would have been entirely different.
What has been the hardest thing in motherhood for you?
Being a parent to a child who isn’t here in my arms. Joseph was stillborn at full term, back in 2006, and although I have been blessed with four healthy children, there isn’t a day goes by when I don’t notice his absence or feel a sense of loss. I think it will always be the same, and that’s the hardest part of motherhood for me, without a doubt.
When things get tough in motherhood you……
eat chocolate and drink wine.
What do you feel guilty about as mum?
I think it’s easier to say what don’t I feel guilty about!! I always feel guilty, whether that’s about allowing them to watch too much Cbeebies, feeding them chicken nuggets and chips, putting them in nursery so I can get some work done, shouting at them, ignoring them because I’m too wrapped up in nosying on Facebook…..far too many things that I beat myself up for on a daily basis!
When was the last time you lost your s*** at your child/children?
This morning. In fact, every morning if I’m honest. The school run is as stressful as you would imagine with a 2, 3 and 4 year old, and with only two hands and three little ones, there are tears and tantrums every single morning – mine and theirs!
What makes you feel bad as a mum?
See above!! I always feel bad that I have shouted at them, especially when it’s because I am stressed and tired and panicking about being late for school.
And what makes you feel good as a mum?
Those moments when they throw their arms around you, give you an unprompted kiss and cuddle and tell you that you’re the best mummy in the world. Those are the moments that remind me I’m doing okay.
The universal sods law of being a mum is…..
if it’s going to rain, you can guarantee it will wait until 3.15 when you’re off out on the school run, and the heavens will open!
What is the greatest lesson being a mum has taught you?
It has taught me that nothing else matters as long as my children are happy and healthy. Whether my home is a mess, the laundry basket is over flowing or I’ve not washed my hair all week, as long as we are doing what is right for our family, making memories and enjoying the moment, everything else is completely irrelevant.
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