The 10 stages of grey hair discovery

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I’m guessing most of you have been there already…and if not…you lucky sods!…yes that fated first grey hair discovery; the start of an epic journey into grey hair-dom, that first grey hair found! moment.

I don’t know why we are so hung up with the appearance of grey hairs, but because of that fact, it seems to be a monumental event encompassing tragedy, humour, denial and the desire for…revenge! Oh, only joking on that last part.

In any case, it certainly makes for a blog-worthy subject and so now, behold, the 10 stages of grey hair discovery:


“What’s that in your hair, is it paint?” – the unfortunate discovery by usually the even more unfortunate partner or husband. Warning: don’t shoot the messenger!


Where is this unidentified alien residing in your barnet??! You can’t bloody find it so it’s probably just a harmless error. Oh shit, there it is.


That’s not a bloody grey hair, that’s actually a blonde hair you fool! Errrrr….hang about…or is it? Better dig out the tweezers just in case…


You sneak off into the bathroom and cautiously examine the culprit. Yes, it’s blonde…definitely blonde. With a tinge of grey, perhaps.


Ok you idiot, you know it’s not really blonde, or paint, or just the way the sun is catching your hair…it’s grey you fool!


Fuck, I really do have a grey hair. I probably have more than one that’s hiding in there too.


It’s bloody motherhood that’s done this to me! All those sleepless nights and stressful days.


Oh well, I can’t see it from where I am, it’s probably the only one, so best forget about it. Brush it off, excuse the pun.


Uh oh…is that another one I can see? And another one? It’s a flipping outbreak!


Oh well…I wonder how long I can eek this out until I need to start dying the shit out of my hair?

Does this sound familiar? What went through your head on discovery of your first grey hair? Did you care…or not really?

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  1. Because I already dye the shit out of my hair I have yet to actually come across an offending grey hair and I am quite happy to live in this state of blissful ignorance. #Anythinggoes

  2. Ha! Sadly I’m way past the initial find… And thankfully being fair haired they don’t jump out quite so much. But, they do make me feel old! It makes getting my hair colored even more of a necessity 🙂 I blame the kids! #anythinggoes

  3. Yep! That’s about how it went for me… I’ve been grey since I was about 23. lol I don’t even know what my natural hair colour is now! It has been dyed so much x

  4. Natural highlights darling! I have a couple, they seem to cluster above one ear, my hubby finds them hilarious as he is older than me! But he’s started thinning on top – so ha!! Luckily my hair is quite light so they are not too noticable. #FartGlitter

  5. Oh dear, sadly I can totally relate to this. The number of grey hairs I have seem to be multiplying daily. The worst thing is, not only do I have grey hairs on my head, but a couple of years ago, I actually discovered a hair growing out of MY ACTUAL NECK. It was as if the apocalypse had arrived.

  6. I have found several and still write them off to motherhood. Babies have to take blame for something! Sometimes I write them off to being in the sun too much and stripping color from select hairs. But only when I’m feeling exceptionally gullible. #BabyBrainMonday

  7. I’m a little younger than my husband, so I’m watching him go through this with his beard hair–it’s quite amusing! Hilarious post.

    • Of course when this processed is reversed it is immensely enjoyable and entertaining – haha you have my full support!

  8. Yes, but I’d have to add ‘You partner spots it first and points it out with a ridiculous amount of glee’. Still waiting for the appearance of more…but also not looking that closely 🙂
    Thanks for linking up to #fartglitter! x

  9. I can’t remember when I first found one. Maybe three years ago so I was 44 and I it did bother me. Oh yes that’s right…because it wasn’t me who found it. It was my husband. I nearly punched him. My 11 yo now gleefully points them out. Sadly I can’t punch her. And may I just give you some totally unrequested advice? Once you find them lurking…erm….down ‘there’, there’s only one way to go. LASER.

    Thanks for linking to #BabyBrainMonday

    • Gosh you only nearly punched him? You are a better woman than I who was about to maybe…headbutt I was so incensed…Yeah definitely don’t try to punch the 11 year old…you’ll have bigger problems than grey hairs then. Stop with your laser!!!! x

      • I’m so jealous!!! My husband found my first grey hair the day after we got married!! Coincidence much?! Having a big kid certainly took its toll on my head of jet black hair! I haven’t resorted to dying yet but I’ve spotted one (or ten) more! Lucky I already get lasered down there! Haha! Thanks for linking up hun – you never fail to make me laugh! #BabyBrainMonday x

        • LMAO! Seriously, must be his fault then!!? Or he was waiting til you wore the ring before he decided to out it! Thanks for hosting lovely x

  10. Fabulous post! I’ve been colouring my hair since I was 14 so I only just figured out that the patches that don’t take dye so well are actually not just individual hairs but chunky swathes of white. I told my hubby I plan to leave a section and just go for a Bonnie Raitt look but he said it would look “skunky”! At least he’s honest if not tactful! Visiting from #twinklytuesday

  11. Love this post. I am very blond. I don’t have any but apparently I will wake up one day and the whole lot will be white. I’m not sure what’s worse. Bloody aging. And you’re totally right, its definitely the kids fault. #twinklytuesday

    • So the question is I guess, is it better to be slowly and painfully sneaked up on, or quickly boshed over the head? Eeekk I don’t like the sound of either to be honest. Glad you enjoyed the post!

  12. haha love this Tayla! The one good thing about having alopecia means I don’t have this problem and probably never will! I am watching all my friends moan about it though. It’s part of life! xx

    • Tor I had no idea you had alopecia! I must have missed that being relatively new to the blogging scene. You will be forever grey-hairless! x

    • OK but ya know, salt and pepper is kinda sexy on a guy…not so much on a gal? I mean, when was the last time anyone even used the term salt and pepper in reference to a lady? Hmmmmmmmm?

  13. So true, I claimed I was going blond for ages then just started dying it and I totally blame motherhood! #twinklytuesday

  14. I found my first one when I was only 20!! Many, many more since then. And now I have to keep doing scraped back hair styles in a hurry, there are always a few lurking. Oh well. Perhaps they make me appear older and therefore wiser? *clutches at straws* #TwinklyTuesday

  15. HAHAHAHAHA! Number 6 was my favorite because I think those were my exact words. I, however, do not have kids so sadly mine are all from genetics. Upon asking my dad when his mother started to go grey he said “30s or 40s I think.” My response? “Fuck…I’m screwed.” Great and funny post! #anythinggoes

  16. oh gosh i’m way past all of these stages! Found a grey hair in my head when i was 12! definitely ‘started’ going grey in my early 20’s and now i’m 30 with a baby (who never stops) all over a sudden there are ‘patches’ and huge chunks, not just single hairs. Seeing how long i dare leave it now…it might suit me! #fartglitter

  17. Awesome as always! I feel rather fortunate to have not had any greys as yet, but I’m 36 and know they are on their way 🙁 thanks so much for sharing with #DiffLinky

  18. Thanks to genetics, I found my first grey hair in my early twenties so I solved the problem by pouring hair dye on them. I haven’t seen my natural colour for a while, but the damn things have spread! Excellent post as always! #sharewithme

    • I think dying hair from an early age is the way forward – that way you will never really know the truth, and thus be shielded from it! Glad you enjoyed it lovely!

  19. I wouldn’t know if I’ve started to get grey hair because I dye my hair. LOL! I don’t want to know. I am happy living in the land of oblivion. Lalala! Love the post! Thanks for sharing! Visiting from #momsterlink

  20. This cracked me up! It’s soooo true. I totally remember seeing my first grey hair. It was three days after my 27th birthday. I was getting into my car after stopping at Kings before I tutored. And right there, out of nowhere, I had a grey hair….Mind you the Friday before …on my birthday …when getting my hair cut, the stylist said to me, “Wow you have no grey hairs.” Yup, she jinxed me and it’s all her fault… ha ha
    Anyways, six years later, I am now in stage 10 waiting as long as possible not to dye the heck out of it. Great post! =) #momsterlink

    • You stylist totally jinxed you! I think my stylist was just lying to me when he said I had none…got to keep the client happy eh? Glad you enjoyed the post..

  21. Haha! I really dread this time. Particularly as my hair doesn’t hold hair dye – no matter how permanent the dye is, it just mysteriously vanishes within a few weeks! So always worried if I went grey too early would not be able to do anything! Though I’ve always heard that grey hair is more permeable & holds dye better! #sundaystars

  22. I think my first discovery came with “several” grey hairs strewn about on my head. And I can’t blame my children cause the grey was there long before they came along. I am in high hopes that I will have my mothers beautifully worn grey hair someday. Her grey hair looks like someone died it that way because it’s so perfect. Until then I don’t really give the grey a chance to rear it’s head since I dye it regularly. Thank you for sharing this with #momsterslink.

  23. My family tends to get grey hair early so I got my first one at 16. At that time it was ‘cool’ rather than ‘oh my god!’ Now though? I’m getting more and more and I think my mom is more in denial about my white hair than I am.! 😛 I started dying my hair last year and it’s easier to forget now… till the roots start cropping up again that is >.<

  24. Hilarious and not hilarious the days of us aging and realizing it is tough. I know by the wrinkles that keep sneaking up on my face in the mirror. Damn them. lol I am lucky though to be bright blonde so it takes longer to notice the greys than being brunette. Here my whole life I wanted to be brunette and I finally have an advantage hahaha 🙂 Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me. I hope to see you again tomorrow for another great round. Why not invite your friends to come share too? I would love to get to know more bloggers and widen my blogger share with me circle. All posts, old and new are welcome. #sharewithme

    • Oh yes, the wrinkles…now that is a WHOLE other blog post…Thanks as always for hosting Jenny and I’ll try to help you spread the word!

  25. I think I’m at stage 8 – I know they are there really but I can’t see them so I’m opting for pretending they aren’t there! Hmmm, I think I might need to move on to 9 and 10 😉 Thanks for linking up to #Thelist xxx

  26. Ha ha! This is brilliant. I laughed all the way through. I am still in denial that they are blonde hairs. Or at least highlights from the sun. And if all else fails I have my friends Mr Tweezerman and Mrs L’Oreal. Thanks for sharing with #SundaysStars. I am sorry it has taken me so long to comment. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

    • Haha I am best buds with Tweezerman at the moment and hoping I can keep Mrs L’Oreal at bay for just that little longer glad it made you laugh hon xx

  27. Ha, ha! This unforutnately sounds oh so familar. Its been years since I found my first grey, pre-child and pre-30’s let me tell you. Life has never been as unfair as that moment I found my first grey hair lol

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