I am probably going to get in a whole heap of trouble for writing this, but one of the many things that have changed since becoming a mother has been how I perceive different people in my extended family. Parenthood, has, in my case, made me become a lot more sensitive to many things, including the often complex family relationships and behaviour so many of us seem to have as a backdrop to our lives. And so without naming and shaming, here are the 10 types of people in your (or at least, my!) family:
1. The I will be there for you no matter what family member
Whether it’s someone who you knew would always show up for the party, supporting you all the way, without judgement, or whether it’s someone who has surprisingly fallen into this category, this family member, or members, are like gold dust, and really are the meaning of true family and that old adage, “blood is thicker than water”.
2. The I will be there for you no matter what family member, who then quickly back-peddles in times of need
Probably one of the most frustrating members of the family, you really want to take it as read when they offer support, only to be burnt when they realize they have either promised too much, or didn’t mean it in the first place. The words lip-service come into mind here. Bloody hell, when will you ever learn???!
3. The I will make you know that I know everything about being a mother family member
Groan! These family members love to harp on about what they think is better or their tried and tested methods way beyond necessary (if at all). It’s like the ground hog day of unwanted advice every single time you see them. Sitting in a room to be avoided near you soon.
4. The I know you are a mum, but I need mothering too
Becoming a mother really makes you realize how vulnerable we can be as human beings. Although being a mum can really be an all consuming task, spare a thought for those relations who could really do with a little mothering themselves.
5. The help! where is the eject seat?! family member
That. Is. All.
6. The kindred spirit family member
You know – that relative who makes you feel utterly normal whenever you’re with them, you get each other, there’s no conflict, and although you might not see each other all that often, it’s just a beautiful thing.
7. The you just make me want to cuddle you family member
Seriously inoffensive and good vibey. Everyone needs at least one of these in their family!
8. The wow, you’re kind of crazy, but I just dig being around you, family member
Because you don’t get out that much these days, intelligent, off the wall debate and musings are about as exciting as things get at family gatherings. And thank god, someone who will at least not try to talk to you about parenting in any form – woo hoo!
9. The solid as a rock family member
A close relative of no. 7, this is person to seek solace with at family gatherings when no.s 3 & 5 get too much!
10. The I am the best kiddy entertainer family member
Seriously, were you a cartoon in a previous life? An absolute child charmer – no weirdness, no politics, just pure kiddy heaven and peace for mum. You can come round anytime.
Do you recognize all these types of people in your own family? Are there any other “relative types” you’d add to the list? Do share here…or feel free to have a good rant about them below…