Being a new mum can be the most magical, confusing, exhausting, contradicting and down right other-wordly experience out. The first year of being a mum can feel like enough challenges were squeezed in it to last a lifetime, and if that’s not enough, it seems like after all this time, most people are still utterly at a loss at how best to support new mums.
These days, we seem to have manifestos for everything, and with the upcoming election, I thought – what better time to pen a proposed New Mummy manifesto? And so here is my New Mummy Manifesto, based on everything I, along with other mums in my network, experienced in their first year. Please feel free to send your feedback and proposed amends to the new mummy minister in a comment below…
- We shall be there to support, help and nourish new mummies in our circles, giving practical help of an extra pair of hands when at all possible.
- We shall smile at new mummies in the street, not just coo over their babies, so they know they have not disappeared into a black baby hole.
- We shall talk to new mummies at the playgroup, just so that they feel that they have had an adult conversation at least once that day.
- We shall not scrutinize and pass judgement on their parenting, or compare to our own situations, because we know every mummy and baby is different.
- We will keep it real, and not collude in one big, “put on a brave face” cover-up.
- We shall not make new mummies feel even more insecure by brushing off their concerns as neurotic.
- We shall introduce new mums to other new mums – rather than keeping things in a clique.
- We shall not assume…anything…to do with a new mum or their circumstances.
- We shall continue to support them once all the initial flurry of newborn excitement has died down…and not forget about them thereafter.
- We shall come to call when it suits them (not us) and make sure everything we do to help is around what and when is convenient for them.
What else would you add to this New Mummy Manifesto? Feel free to chime in below!