Why I’ve come to hate the word “cuddle”

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I can’t believe I am actually writing this post, but yes, there I have said it…I have come to hate the word “cuddle” in our house.

Once upon a time you couldn’t prise me away from the word cuddle. Yes I was an extreme cuddler. Willing to cuddle pretty much anyone, at any time.

Now the word makes me shudder. I mean, WTF? how could a word like cuddle actually make me shudder? I hear you all gasp.

You see the problem is, the word has been used and abused to within an inch of i’s life in this household of late.

Let’s take a moment to reflect on the word cuddle, which is defined as…

a prolonged and affectionate hug.

Now THAT sort of cuddle I am down for. Always.

However the word cuddle is now used in the following way in this house:

  • Cuddddddddle! (when child can’t be arsed to walk down the stairs)
  • Cudddddddle! (when child has done something wrong)
  • Cudddddddle! (when mummy and daddy are talking and child is angling for attention
  • Cudddddddle! (when mummy is trying to hang up washing, cook something or go for a shower)

And so on. You get the picture.

I understand the link to all these instances are emotional ones – however it is the use of the word cuddle that totally gets me every time.

Why not – hey mum! I don’t want you to talk to dad – talk to me instead! 


Man, I really effed up just now, I’m sorry

or even

I know you need to do the chores mum, but I really don’t want to play by myself right now

But for now, cuddle has become a euphemism for pretty much anything that is not going my threenager’s way. And damn it, I miss the proper cuddle requests of before. You know, ones like these.

woman cuddling a young boy

Because after all…there is nothing like a good, proper old cuddle is there?

Is the word cuddle used and abused in your house? Leave a comment and let me know!

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  1. “I need a cuddle!!!” is regularly whined when one or both my kids doesn’t want to finish their dinner. Total game players; I am torn between growling and giving in. Yep; they have us wrapped around their squidgy fingers. #coolmumclub
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  2. I am the one who wants a cuddle all the time. I am luck because Baba is too small and can’t escape yet. I just grab him and give him millions. I make sure I have my dose before he turns into a snotty teen! #coolmumclub

  3. Erm, yes. My daughter is a dreadful cling-on at times – I literally can’t go for a wee without her climbing on my lap. Sitting on the sofa she will continously edge closer (which usually means inadvertent kicks to the stomach) until she is in my lap with her face pressed against mine. 90% of the time I do my best to appreciate it! X
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  4. Oh lol lol lol – I’m getting “Do you like a cuddle mummy?” after toddler 1 has poked toddler 2, big kid 1 or big kid 2 in the eye, or hidden someone’s toy etc etc. I’m with you #coolmumclub

  5. ha ha – at first I couldn’t see where you were going with this and then … BAM… cuuuuudle and I was so with you – diversion tactics from a threenager – tough and not cute when it’s the 50th time of the hour! very funny! The real cuddles will come back though #coolmumclub
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  6. Hehe I wondered where this post was going when I started reading but oh yeah – you’re totally right! We get a lot of requests for cuddles when the hubby and I are trying to talk about important things like finances or what’s for tea. I feel bad for saying it, but it can be infuriating! haha. Good post #coolmumclub
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  7. Haha loved this, I too wondered where it was going! I must hear the word cuddle about ten thousand times a day, mainly when I am trying to make the tea, do the housework, have a moments peace or mostly when I am cuddling one of the other four! I do love a good cuddle but sometimes, especially in this weather, I just want to have my own personal space!!! #coolmumclub
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  8. It’s sorry in our house every time tinker toddler does something she shouldn’t it’s sorry straight away and a kiss! Then she thinks she has got away with it l! Gotta a love a tryer huh #coolmumclub

  9. Oh yes. In our house it’s ‘huggle’ because that’s even cuter and mummy can’t bear to deny me a ‘huggle’ even when she’s busy trying to do something or have a conversation or get down the stairs with a basket of laundry etc etc. Spot on post! #coolmumclub
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  10. Yes Yes Yes! I get it from our threenager all the time, or should I say, at all times when she has been told “No” or that she needs to “hurry up and get dressed” or “finish her breakfast”. It’s like bringing out the big guns in this house, accompanied with a side of “big brown eyes and quivering bottom lip”. Hmmmf.
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  11. Err is it just me that finds it extremely worrying that all our kids seem to learn the ‘cuddle’ tactic so early on – what a bunch of little manipulators they are! They know our weak spot and they intend to use it to their full advantage 🙂 Sneaky beggars, I cannot bring myself to refuse a cuddle because I know one day they won’t want to cuddle me any more. What can I say, as long as those arms are outstretched I’m a willing victim. #coolmumclub
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  12. Ha ha, it’s amazing how many things you can do while giving a big ‘carry cuddle’…cook dinner, put on a load of washing, run the hoover round…I’m clearly a major soft touch (anything for a bit of peace). Now cuddles on the sofa watching a movie I CAN do any day 🙂
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  13. I couldn’t relate to this more! Leon uses it for everything these days. It’s no longer associated with those little moments where he just loves his mum because well, he loves me. Now he will pour milk everywhere and say “kiss mummy, cuddle” #coolmumclub

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  14. haha lol this is too true. we not only have cudddddddddlllle but cuddle on the lap, cuddle lying down, cuddle with a back stroke. the list goes on and on ! #coolmumclub

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