The honest parent blog: Why I tell it how it is on the blog

honest parent blog

I feel I need to set the record straight. Almost two years ago I started this blog because I felt there were so many things about motherhood, and being parents in this day and age, that just weren’t being talked about openly enough. In those two years however, the net has been blown wide open and there are so many incredible bloggers who have also stepped up to talk about motherhood, fatherhood, and parenthood openly. Which is nothing short of incredible.

This is not some vanity project. I often hesitate five, ten even twenty times before publishing the posts which were the most difficult to write. The posts that leave me absolutely exposed, that share my inner most thoughts and feelings. Sure, there is a part of me that is trying to work through this all with you, dear reader. But really, it’s because I know there are other people out there who must be feeling the same as me about any given topic, at any moment in time, who are struggling to make sense of their own thoughts and feelings, let alone communicate them to another being. Most recently, this was about my ongoing only child conundrum.

I know this might mean that I might be unpopular with some,  or perhaps ungrateful to those who know me. But it’s a risk I’m willing to take for the greater good, for the knowledge that others who might be grappling with the very same issues, thoughts and feelings as me might not feel alone.

Time after time this has been confirmed by some of the incredible comments and thanks I have received from you, the reader. From you, who follow me on social media. Those words are golden to me and outweigh some of the disapproval I receive over time. They light up my life when I receive them, and let me know it’s not all in vain. That there is somebody out there to whom my words have made a difference.

It would be so much easier to keep my thoughts to myself wouldn’t it? To pretend like everything in the garden of parenthood was rosy. To just get on with the job of the gardener, and stop asking questions, just crack on with pulling up the weeds, to stop asking myself and those around me why or how. I am not that type of gardener, so fire me if you must.

This is not a popularity contest. This is life. This is true emotion, these are pure thoughts. With the media continuing to present such a warped view of life, the only voices which can be counted are those of you and me, are not those of the reporters with an agenda, but those who speak from the heart.

And my promise to you is, I will continue to speak from the heart, to speak what is in YOUR heart, even if I ruffle a few feathers along the way, so help me.

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  1. Am I sensing some negativity has come your way Talya? You are flying the flag high for real mums so keep going. I agree we need to all stop hiding under perfect facades in the media…otherwise we’all all implode with failure! Hugs x

  2. Love everything about this and your honesty about pausing before you press publish – I know that feeling but I think sometimes those are the best posts. My post today leaves me a little vulnerable but why is writing if it isn’t writing for you? #CoolMumClub

  3. There’s nothing better than honesty, and telling things like they are. But being straight-forward is hard to deal for some people. I always try my best to live by the rule – to accept that noone is alike any other and that my truth is just that – my truth, and that perhaps many others won’t like it;) By the way: You are one of my favorite bloggers!x #coolmumclub

  4. I couldn’t agree more, and please know this reader is ever grateful for the posts that make me feel less alone 🙂 #coolmumclub

  5. It’s motherhood – the real deal, isn’t it, so it has to be the real deal in my view, however tricky it is. You know what they say, you’re never going to please all of the people all of the time. So you just have to write what is right for you. In our ‘post-truth’ society we need that honesty. And your blog is brilliant by the way. #coolmumclub

  6. “I might be unpopular with some” Bahahahahaha. I think many people start blogging to be popular. That might work for some, not me. Just do yo thang and be onest. Thanks #coolmumclub

  7. I couldn’t agree more. I have always been very honest on my blog, some may say TOO honest, but it’s so important for me to share the highs as well as the lows. I much prefer to read an honest blog, those who paint the picture of a perfect life don’t hold my interest long term, keep doing what you’re doing! #coolmumclub

  8. Yes you go girl! When I was struggling as a new mum, unsure what to do or how to cope, I turned to the internet. I didn’t even know what a blog was then, but hearing someone else express how I was feeling in that exact moment was the most comforting, encouraging thing in the world. That’s why I started blogging – because blogs can be a lifeline, and blogs tell it like it is #CoolMumClub

  9. Well done Talya. I really appreciate reading honest posts. Some are disengaging because they seem almost too forced?? If that’s the correct word (?). Perhaps people trying to be ‘popular’ as another reader wrote. Nothing is perfect or 100% brilliant 100% all of the time. You’re someone whom others can perhaps relate to. And that’s what’s important to those readers xx

  10. Me again loving this post even more than ever. After the day I’ve had, I’m totally in need of some honest mums to cry with ha ha! Being a Mum is one tough gig sometimes – thank god for people like you breaking the perfect-Mum illusion.
    Long live #coolmumclub

  11. I concur! I think is it important to be real in this sea of media fakeness and glowing ‘perfect family’ portrayals. We will all go insane striving for that unreachable perfection! For all parents out there struggling it is super important to remain real in our blogging as that is what they relate to… what inspires and moves our readers. <3 #coolmumclub

  12. I couldn’t agree more lovely. I too write honestly from the heart and I know some friends and members of my own family think I’m embarassing myself by ‘washing my dirty linen in public’. But what if no-body ever told the truth? What if everyone was so scared of opening up and sharing how hard/sad/angry they are? We’d all go mad thinking that everyone had perfect lives accept us. Solidarity is a wonderful thing and blogging has certainly given me that in bucket loads. All the lovely comments I get help me keep going and I am just writing a blog post about it at the moment. I love your writing Talya, your blog is brilliant and you are also a bloody lovely person in real life. Keep it real sista! xx #coolmumclub

  13. I love reading real mum blogs – the more honest the better. After 2 kids I’m still finding it damn hard trying to figure them out and always turn to other mummy bloggers to reassure myself that I am still sane and doing well. I love your honesty, please keep writing the way you do. 🙂 #coolmumclub

  14. If I’m honest I hate the blogs where it appears all is Rosy as I know all to well that parenting is not easy. There is a blogger I know who makes out on social media life is amazing and so easy and skips major hardship points in her blogs.
    If she was more honest I actually think she’s not only do better with her blog and find how amazing this community is but also I would want to read her stuff more.
    I don’t see why people need to hide the truth. I for one am an advocate for the truth and from wanting four kids I’m open in admitting that right now I do not want anymore. But more fur babies? Hells yeah hahaha! #coolmumclub

  15. I can honestly say that my journey through parenthood so far would have been so much harder and more challenging had it not been for the brave and honest posts that you and other brilliant writers have shared. I totally agree with you in that the media paints a warped view of some of the realities of motherhood, and it can be so damaging to mums who are struggling and feeling isolated and that they are failing. I salute you and your brilliant work Talya. Keep em coming! X #coolmumclub

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