The 10 types of (sometimes annoying) relatives in your family

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I am probably going to get in a whole heap of trouble for writing this, but one of the many things that have changed since becoming a mother has been how I perceive different people in my extended family. Parenthood, has, in my case, made me become a lot more sensitive to many things, including the often complex family relationships and behaviour so many of us seem to have as a backdrop to our lives. And so without naming and shaming, here are the 10 types of people in your (or at least, my!) family:

1. The I will be there for you no matter what family member

Whether it’s someone who you knew would always show up for the party, supporting you all the way, without judgement, or whether it’s someone who has surprisingly fallen into this category, this family member, or members, are like gold dust, and really are the meaning of true family and that old adage, “blood is thicker than water”.

2. The I will be there for you no matter what family member, who then quickly back-peddles in times of need

Probably one of the most frustrating members of the family, you really want to take it as read when they offer support, only to be burnt when they realize they have either promised too much, or didn’t mean it in the first place. The words lip-service come into mind here. Bloody hell, when will you ever learn???!

3. The I will make you know that I know everything about being a mother family member

Groan! These family members love to harp on about what they think is better or their tried and tested methods way beyond necessary (if at all). It’s like the ground hog day of unwanted advice every single time you see them. Sitting in a room to be avoided near you soon.

4. The I know you are a mum, but I need mothering too

Becoming a mother really makes you realize how vulnerable we can be as human beings. Although being a mum can really be an all consuming task, spare a thought for those relations who could really do with a little mothering themselves.

5. The help! where is the eject seat?! family member

That. Is. All.

6. The kindred spirit family member

You know – that relative who makes you feel utterly normal whenever you’re with them, you get each other, there’s no conflict, and although you might not see each other all that often, it’s just a beautiful thing.

7. The you just make me want to cuddle you family member

Seriously inoffensive and good vibey. Everyone needs at least one of these in their  family!

8. The wow, you’re kind of crazy, but I just dig being around you, family member

Because you don’t get out that much these days, intelligent, off the wall debate and musings are about as exciting as things get at family gatherings. And thank god, someone who will at least not try to talk to you about parenting in any form – woo hoo!

9. The solid as a rock family member

A close relative of no. 7, this is person to seek solace with at family gatherings when no.s 3 & 5 get too much!

10. The I am the best kiddy entertainer family member

Seriously, were you a cartoon in a previous life? An absolute child charmer – no weirdness, no politics, just pure kiddy heaven and peace for mum. You can come round anytime.

Do you recognize all these types of people in your own family? Are there any other “relative types” you’d add to the list? Do share here…or feel free to have a good rant about them below…

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  1. I know some other types as well, but I won’t describe them here! Either you’ve been very kind to your family or your family is pretty awesome. Fun to read 🙂

  2. 😀 Sounds familiar. I used to be the last one but since having kids I’m like ‘pass the wine’. Do your family read your blog? I can just picture them all sitting trying to figure out which one of these they are, lol.

    Thanks so much for linking up to #fartglitter x

    • Eeeek the beauty of it is…because I would be one…I didn’t include a number for eye rolling mums covered in food smears!

  3. Hmmm there is one not listed on here which is the “all about me” relative. You know the one. They invite themselves over under the pretence of visiting you and your child but then want total focus on them when they get there. Not that I would know of course, my “friend” has one of these… ;-p #TwinklyTuesday

  4. Aaah we’ve got a lovely mix of 6,7 and 8 in our family! I’m really, really lucky with my in-laws. I also have a ‘If you want to go to a festival, I’ll look after your kids for a week’ sister-in-law. Awesome. If I could bottle her, I’d make a fortune! 🙂 Thanks so much for linking up with us! #TwinklyTuesday

  5. Great list! Funny too. I love reading your posts. You have a great writing style. Makes me feel as if you were sitting right next to me, having a conversation. What about the one who just eats all your food, drinks all your wine, goes into your bedroom and touches all your things and then leaves without saying a word to you the entire time? **Agent looks innocently away, not me, I promise**

    • Hahaha that is so YOU isn’t it? Now now don’t try to act like it’s not. One fine day, my dear, we will be sitting in front of each other eating cake and chatting shit. Just you wait and see x

  6. It actually sounds like you’ve got a pretty sensational family. You must have some fabulous parties. As long as the good eggs outnumber the duds everything is ok. Wonderful list! #coolmumclub

  7. both my brother and my hubbys brother have no kids so they are always entertaining our kids it is fab! Great insight, awesome post #coolmumclub

  8. Hahaha can see a few of these in my family… But would add some close friends fall into these categories too! #coolmumclub

  9. Haha I like to think that I am the child entertainer of the family but i’m probably just the crazy one that you end up digging anyway :p I have a large family so most of these apply – that’s both a good and a bad thing :p Thanks for sharing #coolmumclub

  10. Sounds like you have quite a tight knit family. Mine are all over the place and the ones that are near by are borderline alcoholics meaning that they are all absolutely hilarious and great fun and a complete nightmare in equal measures. Families eh? 😉

    Thanks for hosting coolmumclub

  11. All my female in-law relatives are no.3’s. My family tend to be Hands Off Supporters, they support you in principal but allow you create your own successes and failures – and try not to mention the failures after! It sounds like you have a lovely varied family, a good mix!! #coolmumclub

  12. Great post!! I love things lists like this, and trying to match them to my life! I’m from a huge family, so there was always going to be a lot of 5s, with such large numbers… But, I’ve got plenty of aunts, uncles and cousins who are fabulous 8s, and my dad luckily is the awesomest 10!! Really enjoyed reading this!

  13. What about the The “Overly Helpful and Interested” Family Member?
    They call all the time to see how you’re doing, which is lovely, but the baby’s FINALLY sleeping and you’ve *just* sat down with a drink and you really don’t want to talk to anyone right now…
    …and then, of course, you feel like a cow cos they were only being nice!

  14. Love this. So dang true. I am surrounded by an entire side of my family that probably fits nicely into No. 8. Which makes things really fun and sometimes crazy when we all get to together for the holidays. Thanks for sharing on #EffItFriday

  15. I love this post. It’s so relatable. You hit them all spot on, some are scarily accurate in my case. Brilliant post #coolmumclub

  16. I’m not sure if I have all these family members, but do have some I guess! Our family have been very supportive since our baby came along, and we we’d be lost without them. Really makes you appreciate family 🙂 #effitfriday

  17. A well observed, fun post. I’m very lucky to have a number 1 in my life! You might be missing a critical family member – there’s usually one of those, and usually their criticism come in the form of back-handed compliments like “you’ve got a nice figure – now” or “you’re looking a lot less tired”. #effitfriday

  18. A fantastic list hun and I totally recognise some of them in my family. Although I think a few of them apply to one person in particular! 🙂

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