Those of you who follow my blog know that we have danced with the fussy eating devil for many years, and it’s pretty much been my life’s dedication and work since motherhood to try to banish him to a far away land….um hey?! what HAVEN’T WE TRIED????! But for all our newfangled solutions – smiley food faces, puppet shows and everything in-between, it was something super simple that helped us turn a corner on the fussy eating stakes.
Are you ready to hear what it was?
There’s no rocket science involved in this, no bells and whistles, just something very old fashioned, as it happens.
Are you ready for the big reveal?
It was eating family meals together.
I have to admit now, this did take a bit of orchestration on our part to make it happen and this is definitely a tough one to pull out of the bag in this modern day parent juggle when so often once you get work and getting back from work into the mix, having dinner together can feel like a pipedream.
So how to make it happen? Well, it may mean fiddling around with meal times, or focusing more on eating breakfast together as opposed to dinner, or perhaps making it all about family meals at the weekend. It might mean that only one parent sits down to have the family dinner, but that you have to eat your dinner at the ludicrously early time of 5.30pm rather than plonking their tea down for them to eat while you get on with the chores. But whichever way you can spin it, family meals together can be a game-changer when it comes to minimising – and perhaps one day – ending the fussy eating dramas.
That’s why I’ve teamed up with Haliborange – the range of children’s vitamins made by the UK’s leading supplements manufacturer Seven Seas – to share my thoughts on why family meals times are just so important in the quest to knock fussy eating on the head.
So what’s the deal with family meals and fussy eating?
There are a few reasons why eating family meals together in whatever way we can has worked for us:
- Leading by example – although they may be reluctant at the outset, children learn by modelling and repeated behaviour. So while they might throw an epic wobbly at the prospect of eating something new for the first time, over time they will eventually see everyone eating a wide variety of foods and will accept it as their new normal…even if it means they only try it once and spit it out with disgust twenty times before they finally accept it – that is still huge progress compared to flat out stonewalling it in my book!
- Communication – family meal times give you a chance to actually talk about the food on your plate and nutrition. What is it? Where does it come from? Why is it good for you? It’s also a great time for your child to talk about their day whatever age they might be….which in itself is actually the perfect natural distraction for any fussy eater!
- Re-connecting – family meal times give you a better shot of making the whole eating process a happy time where you can catch up on your day rather than a stressful experience about what they are or are not eating. It becomes more than just about food. A child eating in isolation to help minimize the fussy eating drama might sound like a good idea at the time, but it might actually feel more like punishment because essentially they are losing out on the chance to reconnect with their family over a meal.
Make it right for your family
I have to stress now, that all of this has to be realistic. What a family meal means to one family might not be the same to another family so it’s very much about what works for you. It doesn’t have to be everyone sitting down perfectly with tip top table manners (because that certainly doesn’t ever happen in our house!). But it’s more the getting together of everyone at the table, at the same time, in a relaxed way as possible that takes the pressure off the fussy eater in question and hopefully diffuses the power struggles (it’s easier to ignore any fussy eating behaviour while there are other dynamics going on as opposed to when they are the sole dynamic – gah!).
That being said, making it right for your family doesn’t mean making it right for EVERYONE in your family and by that I mean, avoid making multiple meals to serve at the same time which not only will make your head absolutely explode over time, but will also just reinforce the fussiness. Yup, offering alternatives when the rest of the family are just getting on with it is a super slipperly slope and will basically negate any benefits derived from having your meal together.
I’d love to know if you have tried using family meal times as a way to circumvent fussy eating and what your experiences have been. Do leave a comment and share. In the meantime, the lovely people over at Haliborange are offering a fab vitamin bundle for your littles in this giveaway here….
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* This is a commissioned post in collaboration with Haliborange. Food supplements do not replace a balanced diet and healthy lifestyle.
Vitamin A: helps support normal vision, Vitamin C: helps support the immune system, Vitamin D: essential for the normal growth and development of bones in children, Vitamin B12: contributes to normal energy release.
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