Hello! And welcome back to mum truths – the series which seeks to get as all talking about mumlife honestly and openly. For this edition I’m delighted to have Chantele who blogs over at Two Hearts One Roof, and so over to her for some mum truths!
Hi all, and thanks Talya for having me on your blog today. I’m Chantele and I run www.twoheartsoneroof.com. I’m just shy of 30, married to Jon, and mum to a rather active 7 month old little dude called Elian, plus a crazy 2 year old cocker spaniel called Opie. I live in South Wales and run 2 photography companies with my hubby! www.crossjonesphotography.com which is our wedding and newborn business and www.littlegreenshedstudio.com which is our family and kids studio company. I’ve been blogging for 8 years, originally on my fashion blog Daisy Dayz which I retired 3 years ago, and now on Two Hearts which is a family, lifestyle blog.
Sum up being a mum in five words….
Awesome, emotional, constant, fun and tiring.
What did you wish you knew before having children?
As I work with newborns I think I knew most things off other mums, but I suppose I wish I’d know just how much he would consume my life. Not in a bad way as such, but Elian doesnt like being put down to nap, or going to sleep before 11, or sleeping on his own, or in a cot, so he is pretty much attached to me 24/7 when he’s with me. Me and Jon had this logic in our heads that I would be able to work (business and blog) in the times he took naps or after he went to bed, but sadly this just isn’t the case with our little man. Not all babies are the same of course, some have lovely long naps and happily sleep in a cot, ours just isn’t one of them! lol!
What has been the hardest thing in motherhood for you?
In all honesty the strain it has put on our relationship. We never argued (Ok occasionally about where the TV remote was or why something hadn’t been tidied up) but since dude has arrived there have been a fair few arguments, nothing major just a lot more little snaps at each other, usually because we are both a little more tired and a little more stressed than we have ever been before. I find it hard not having time to do anything and Jon is finding it hard running 2 businesses solo, so its been stressful, but we wouldn’t change it.
When things get tough in motherhood you…
take a deep breath and count to 10! (or ask nanna if she wants to babysit! 😉
What do you feel guilty about as mum?
The fact that I still work! Running a business like ours means I never really took maternity leave like other mums. I was back shooting weddings when he was 5 weeks old, so he was with his grandparents over night from that young. I do feel guilty that I’m not with him 24/7 even though he is a baby, but on the flip side I work from home and also don’t work a normal 9-5 job and never will, when he is older I’ll be able to take him to school and pick him up and easily have time off for events, parties and the summer holidays, so its good in that sense.
When was the last time you lost your s*** at your child/children?
Can’t say that has happened yet, but he is only 7 months old.
What makes you feel bad as a mum?
When he is in pain. He was constipated for 3 days when we started giving him solids and it was heartbreaking when he was in pain. He screamed the place down one night, so I sent Jon out as soon as the chemist was open to get him something to help. We tried every possible trick and in the end he did manage to ‘go’! It was so so hard seeing him cry knowing it was something so simple technically, but not something we could really do anything much about.<
And what makes you feel good as a mum?
His smiles! He is such a cheeky chap and has the best smiles ever! He acts all shy when he first meets people, giving them a smile then buying his head into my chest, but then peeking back again to see if their still looking, he’s wicked. And so bloody cute!#
The universal sods law of being a mum is…
Elian always waking up, wanting a feed or deciding he doesn’t want to play in his ball pit any more, the minute I sit down with some food!
What is the greatest lesson being a mum has taught you?
Oh that is such a heard question! Being a mum is what I was made to do, if I’m honest. It’s the best thing ever and I’d do anything for my little man. It’s taught me that my body is capable if amazing things! It grew a perfect tiny human and its fed him blinking well too!
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