Why more exhausted parents are sleeping apart from their spouses and how it could be the secret to surviving sleepless nights.
A growing number of Brits are breaking tradition in favour of the parental ‘sleep divorce’ and the numbers suggest they’re onto something. New research reveals that over half (55%) of people say they sleep better in a different room from their partner, with many crediting the switch for a better mood, improved relationships, and even being ‘a nicer person’.
The Statistics
The survey of 2,000 UK adults, commissioned by DFS, lifts the lid on the quiet reality of ‘sleep divorce’: while 71% of couples say they always share a bedroom, a growing number are choosing to sleep separately, at least some of the time. And with 13% of respondents citing children as the reason for their poor sleep, it’s no wonder that exhausted parents are among the first to adopt this increasingly common sleep solution.
The trend has become a practical way for couples, especially those with young kids, to reclaim quality rest. According to the research, 57% of those who sleep in separate rooms say it improves their sleep, and over a quarter (26%) say it’s helped their overall relationship. A further 26% say it lifts their mood, while 16% say it makes them a ‘nicer person’.
The Benefits
Sleep expert Anne Marie Boyhan says the benefits are more than anecdotal:
“Sharing a bed doesn’t always mean sharing quality rest. For parents juggling night feeds, early wake-ups and the mental load of childcare, sleeping apart some nights can be a game-changer. It’s not about relationship problems – it’s about practical survival.”
She adds that whether parents choose to sleep separately, small environmental changes can make a big difference.
“Sleep comes easier in a calm, uncluttered space. Many parents end up with toys, laundry and chaos creeping into the bedroom, but this should be a sanctuary. Opt for furniture that helps you hide the mess; an ottoman bed or underbed storage can help. Invest in a mattress that limits motion transfer if you’re being disturbed by your partner tossing, turning or getting up with the kids.”
Here are Anne Marie’s science-backed sleep tips for tired parents:
1 Consider a temporary “sleep divorce”
Sleeping in separate beds or rooms so one partner gets uninterrupted sleep a few nights may offer one way to restore balance and reduce tension.
2 Keep the bedroom a kid-free zone where possible
Use clever storage like ottoman beds to remove clutter and reclaim your space.
3 Choose a mattress that supports uninterrupted sleep
Look for designs that reduce movement or pressure points, especially if one partner is up and down in the night.
4 Stick to a routine
12% of people admit they don’t stick to a regular bedtime schedule. Even if your child’s sleep is unpredictable, creating a consistent wind-down ritual for yourself helps signal to your body that it’s time to rest. To find the perfect routine for you take this quiz
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