Attachment parenting, positive parenting, helicopter parenting, lawnmower parenting, tough love parenting, gentle parenting, free-range parenting, authoritative parenting, indulgent parenting…
Isn’t the above enough to make your head explode? And that’s not even the full range of all the parenting styles and labels out there that apparently we all fit into as parents (you can read about them all here).
Once upon a time, parenting was just parenting; parenting was just getting on with it as best you could. Now parenting is pigeonholed, compartmentalised, hung drawn and quartered and filed to within an inch of its life in a never ending system of parenting labels thoroughly signposting our parenting styles presenting their own range of characteristics, concerns, outcomes and most importantly….a whole set of parental hangups for you to be strung up by.
Parenting is over-analyzed, parenting is made to be paranoid with reports of creating unruly kids, kids with low-self esteem, kids who will not be able to manage in the real world. Put one foot wrong and you’ve screwed it up…or them up. You have made them into an ameba who will be pathetically limping through the world unable to manage on their own, clinging on for dear life because they can not stand on their own two feet…because of your so-called “parenting style”.
Or worse yet, they will think that they are the centre of everything and squash and ruin all that descends on their path before subsequently having a breakdown once they realise that they are in fact….not the centre of the world after all.
They say to be a parent is to be guilty…but in today’s age of overly obsessive parenting analysis, fads and labels, I say that parental guilt is now being pushed to new limits by an information overload of rights and wrongs as we carefully tread an ever-changing tight rope of do’s and don’ts, and dance around like crazed monkeys trying to guide our children in the best way possible so that they don’t end up being “that” child.
How about we just scrap all the labels in favour of one glorious, one size fits all label – the”I’m just doing the best I can” parenting style? Because quite frankly, I’m sick as a small hospital with all this talk of parenting styles.
Have you had enough of all this talk of parenting styles? Leave a comment and share your view…