Today we’re going to talk fixing your vagina after birth. I gave birth to my first child Henry back in 2010, when I was 23 years old. I’d describe those early parenting days like being a deer in headlights. I felt overwhelmed at almost everything and most of the time. I was feeling my way in the dark. At this point, I had never heard of doing pelvic floor exercises.It wasn’t something I was ever told I should be doing.
The beginning of bladder weakness
Like most mothers, I experienced some bladder weakness but nothing I was worried about. It wasn’t until I became pregnant with my second child almost seven years later that I began experiencing quite dramatic bladder incontinence. I spoke openly to my midwife and GP about the symptoms I was experiencing. I was advised that it was due to how the baby was positioned.
I was encouraged to start pelvic floor exercises but advised that there was little else that could be done prior to the baby being born. It was a difficult period, and things only got worse. But I was hopeful that once I had given birth, I would be in a much better position.
After pregnancy I gave birth to Hugo in June 2018, and I received my specialist appointment later that year in October. My symptoms had undoubtedly improved. But there was still some bladder weakness that was causing me issues far beyond what I would expect to experience having just had a baby.
In this forever?
I also had some scar tissue due to having forceps delivery with my first and quite a significant tear with my second. The specialist advised that I continue with the pelvic floor exercises. And hopefully, the scar tissue would settle down. I was discharged from the clinic, and I left feeling like this would be something I would just have to deal with for the rest of my life.
In a way, I thought it was ‘normal’ to be experiencing these symptoms and assumed it was just cause and effect of pregnancy. When I first heard about BTL EMSELLA, I was both intrigued and sceptical. The treatment involves six-eight sessions lasting 28 minutes where you remain fully clothed simply sit on a specialist chair. Each treatment is the equivalent of doing 11,200 pelvic floor exercises. More than I could ever have done in my lifetime – all in under 30 minutes!
While discussing the BTL EMSELLA treatment, I also learnt about Ultra Femme 360. It’s a procedure which stimulates collagen production and helps enhance blood flow providing a complete vaginal rejuvenation. Ultimately it is a safe and non-surgical alternative to vaginoplasty and labiaplasty.
The vagina after birth – a new way forward?
I had never thought about having any kind of treatment like this before. There certainly wasn’t anything ‘wrong’ down there and I wasn’t entirely sure my vagina needed rejuvenating. But being honest, after two children things are certainly different. The Ultra Femme 360 could potentially help with the scar tissue I was left with after having children. And that alone made it worth at least investigating.
Creating a Treatment Plan I headed off on the train to meet Dr Tracey Sims, the Medical Director at Intimate You a clinic in Liverpool to discuss my options and potentially move forward with a treatment plan if it was suitable. I was nervous and apprehensive, but I was made to feel really welcomed and reassured.
Dr Tracey Sims made me feel at ease and comfortable even discussing personal details regarding my incontinence. After a short assessment, we agreed that both treatments would be really beneficial, and we drew up a treatment plan for the next three weeks. The Ultra Femme 360 requires three sessions one per week and the BTL EMSELLA was eight sessions split over the three weeks. Both treatments required no downtime so I could schedule appointments whenever I was free. As soon as the procedure was over, I was back on the train home – no recovery time needed.
How did it work out?
I’m not exaggerating when I say that both treatments have really improved my life. I honestly went in feeling quite sceptical, but the results speak for themselves. Before I began treatment, I did worry about having an ‘accident’ when out and about. I’d either end up restricting my water intake or avoid situations where I knew a toilet wasn’t accessible. With regards to the Ultra Femme 360, it’s given me a boost in confidence. It now feels as if things have returned to how they were pre-children.
I’m incredibly grateful to my body for carrying and birthing both of my children.But this treatment has made it, so I feel more comfortable in my clothes, when doing sport and just being me. I feel like I have a piece of myself back.
Instantly people think it’s a vanity issue, but realistically no one is going to be looking down there, but for me and my self-confidence it’s made a world of difference.
Sophie is a wife and mother to two boys living in Cheshire. She blogs full time at sophobsessed.com, and you can find and connect with her on her Instagram @sophobsessed.