We can’t help it….we humans are curious creatures…but if you have assumptions about another mum’s situation, here’s a solid piece of advice: keep it to yourself.
You may think the mum who has had her first child at forty put motherhood on hold because her career, but the truth is she struggled with miscarriage after miscarriage until she was finally able to reach full term and deliver her baby healthily.
You may conclude the mum of an only child is being selfish in her decision to deny her child of a sibling, but you don’t know that the one child pushed her to her mental and physical limits and that another child could jeopardize the whole balance of happy family life which she has strived so hard to achieve.
You may presume that the mum who talks to nobody at the school gates seems rude and aloof when in fact she is battling day in, day out with depression.
You may wonder how the woman with no children could ever feel complete when in fact she still yearns deeply for her own after countless rounds of IVF.
Whatever you assume, know this: unless you know these mums, well really, you don’t and the way you perceive things can be very different to reality. You don’t know their story, and you certainly don’t know what challenges they’ve had in their lives, or the decisions they’ve had to make to overcome them.
Because the truth is, life is never as simple as it seems and so my words to you in this post are: please, don’t ever make assumptions about a mum’s situation. Because as the old adage goes, don’t assume because it makes an ass out of you and me and not only that….sometimes our assumptions can be more hurtful to “that mum” than you will ever know.
So rather than assume, why not just keep an open mind and accept? We are all different and what difference does someone else’s situation make to your own life anyway?
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