Today let’s discuss raising children who think for themselves. Independence and being able to think for themselves is a big part of any child’s development, as they’re able to understand the importance of being a disciplined, respectful and kind individual. Being able to think for themselves and independence is also something that kids will have to become accustomed to when they grow older. Parents will be looking for their own spare time and time away from their children as well, and even children will long for alone time and there are certainly things you can do as a parent to lay down the foundations that are key to raising children who can think for themselves.
To help your child become more independent thinkers, and less reliant on you or other members of the family, here are some top tips that this private nursery in Cobham shares with us.
Ease up the time spent with your child
When your child reaches comprehensive school, they’re going to greatly improve their independence over time. This is where you can loosen the reins on what your child can and can’t do – they’re going to want to explore and make plenty of lasting friendships, so utilise this time to let them take control.
Of course, see your child each evening, and catch up with them on what they’ve been up to in school, but also allow them to do things they didn’t have the chance to explore in the past. Let them go over to a friend’s house, or take them to after school clubs where you can leave them for an hour or two.
Give your child chores
To show your child how they can make a difference in the home, offer them ways to keep the home tidy and clean. Giving your child tasks like cleaning the kitchen, or showing them how they can maintain a tidy bedroom each week. Let them look after specific tasks in the house as well, if they prefer, so that they know what is expected of them each week. If they have siblings, let them take turns on what they can be in charge of – one can wash the other dishes while the other dries them.
As they grow older you can give them lots of different tasks that will increase their work ethic, level of responsibility and maturity. It will show them how to keep a home clean and tidy for guests, friends and for their own homes in the future.
Let your child take the lead
Not every activity or thing planned has to be conducted by the parents. Your child can have just as much of a say as you on what can happen on the weekends, activities after school, and more.
Let your child decide what they’d like to do in their spare time. They may want to hang out with their friends that live close by for a few hours, or they’re interested in joining a new activity club in the local area. Let them decide what they want to do in their spare time and follow their lead – it’ll help them make decisions, work on their critical thinking skills, and encourage your child to be more outgoing.
Identify opportunities
Your child may be a bit shyer than their friends, which is acceptable, but your child won’t be able to come out of their shell straight away if they aren’t encouraged to be more independent. When you see an opportunity your child could try, give them a little nudge. Ask what they think about trying new experiences often; even if it’s just to ride around on a scooter, or go to a water park.
Try out activity camps
An activity camp is usually a few hours on any given day where your child is with other kids their age trying a new experience. They’re also away from their parents for most of the day, which gives them the chance to test their child. They’re bound to have fun and make lots of memories with their new found friends!
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