Dear mum who child is currently wailing like a banshee whilst having a tantrum….
I know how you feel…you wish the ground would swallow you up at that very moment as you wonder….my God…is that really my child? But fret not, becausewe’ve all been there and anyone who says that haven’t is a big fat liar.
You’re worried that the other unsuspecting customers at Tesco are judging you …that you’re ruining everyone’s coffee in Costa…and that the whole train or everyone on the plane you happen to be on would rather jump out the window then inhabit the space your tantruming child is in.
It feels like this moment will last forever…you curse under your breath as you suppress the urge to yell at the top of your lungs….”for f***’s sake!!!*** or perhaps you just let it all out and absolutely lose your s*** because you just have had enough for one day and your mum cup is empty and either way, it’s fine.
The thing is – who cares if others are having to be mildly inconvenienced by being subjected to your child’s tantrum? For them, it’s only a moment in time. For you, this is quite likely your life right now.
Do what you need to go to get your through this tantrum…and the next…whatever that may be. The people who you think are judging you…sure maybe they are…or maybe it’s you judging yourself as a mum in which case stop right now!
Every time your child has a tantrum you know the thing to do? It’s not to beat yourself up but give yourself a break. Because the chances are that all the people around you in the hellish moment when your child appears to have turned into the devil and you are profusely sweating bullets is that everyone here has either probably has delivered a tantrum like that in their time and/or had a child who has subjected them to ear splitting tantrums time and time again at some stage of their life.
Remember that tantrums are nothing new and as god awful as they might seem at the time, tantrums are a normal part of a child’s development.
So take a deep breath, do whatever you need to do get through this hell hath no fury like a tantrum moment, and worry not about the people around you…remember you got through the embarrassment of childbirth so you can do this mama (plus a tantrum is much shorter – thank god!!!!).
Just make sure you pure yourself a big old glass of wine later on today, and my the mama force be with you!
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