How to support your child at school

support your child at schoolWell here we are at back to school again! When your child starts school, it really is a whole other dimension. But when your questions of “What did you do at school today?” at pick up constantly get answered with “I don’t know” or “I forgot”, it can be rather confusing to know where and how to support your child at school! Also, nobody wants to be known as the pushy parent, but still, supporting your child at primary school without actually doing it for them is what we’re all aiming for here, right?And because as usual I’m full of all the questions, today I’ve invited Cognitive Behaviour therapist Leann Middlemass and fellow school mum and tutor Nasreen Stewart to help us understand better exactly what we should be doing to support our school age children. Perfect timing for back to school! Read on to find out….

Have meals together

Having meals together where each child gets to talk about their day allows them to unload emotions. If the parent goes first hopefully a relationship is built where the child may feel its okay to talk about an issues they are having.

Listen, listen, listen

When listening to your child do not put your perspective on things. This is their life and how they view it. There feeling right or wrong are still their feelings. And as parents even if we say we understand- truly we do not for the feeling of one child may differ greatly with another.“Yep”, “I hear you” and “Uh hummm”. Three very important words when listening to a child. Sometimes a child may just wish to unload without anyone adding their opinions. This is brilliant for teens who just wish to vent and do not need your unsolicited advise. This way they feel they are being heard and not judged.

Reading is key

Encouraging your child to read, is essential to their learning. Children should be read to every night, especially when they are young.  As they are getting older maybe share the reading, so that you both do some. Find ways to encourage them and motivate them when they are reading so that it is a fun environment for them.  You could put out pop corn and give out blankets so that the kids get all cosy and excited before they take out their books. Just the way we provide these before they watch a your child at school

Communicate with the school

It is important to have a relationship with your child’s teacher but communication is the key and this can be done through the teacher or you,  writing in your child’s homework diary etc. Ask your child and their teacher if they are on track, if not then find ways to help them at home. You can buy books online or just go through some of their school work with them.

Encourage active learning at home

Families continue to be important educators even when they have moved on to school. You can encourage active learning at home through fun games such as Scrabble, Dobble, Rat a Tat Cat and other educational games.

And then there was homework…

The key to homework is to get them to do it as soon as they get it,  so that they don’t forget and make sure they are doing it, not you! Quite often parents get too involved and this doesn’t help the your child at school

Preparing for tests

Children as young as six are stressed about school tests! When it comes to helping them prepare for a test, always prepare in advance,  don’t cram everything in,  otherwise this can make them anxious. You can revise by doing fun quiz’s and mini tests at home.  Be sure to time them also so they are prepared.So there you have it – some tips to help support your child at school, from one parent who is still trying to figure it out! What do you think of the tips above? Or perhaps you have some of your own to share? Do leave a comment below.How to support your child at school #parentingtips #school #education


  1. The school years fly!! My girls are both in high school now, eldest is year 9 and has already chosen her GCSE options, second is having her first day in year 7 today, eeek! My son starts juniors (year 3) on Monday. These are all great tips you have shared!

  2. My little two returned to school yesterday and have gone into year 1 and 2 and my teen starts 6th form tomorrow – yikes! We always chat about their day on the way home they tell me what they had for lunch and who they played with and what they learnt etc, I love hearing about their days x

  3. Thank you for this. It’s useful for parents who might have kids who are struggling or just for common sense use, school years can be fun but challenging.

  4. Great tips. I think we all get too caught up in the rush of the routine, but we make time to eat meals together and also to read with the kids at night. It’s important, and benefits the kids so much.

  5. I think they’re all great hints and I’ll be keeping them in mind next year when our son starts primary. I do ask him how his day has gone when he comes back from preschool and often get “I don’t know” but usually he’ll open up on the way home in the car with at least one story of the day. And I make sure I listen.

  6. Great tips here. I struggle a lot with four of them, it’s hard to find the time in the evening to do everything but I find just small measures can make a big difference, eating together and chatting about our day is a big one!

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