Well here we are at back to school again! When your child starts school
, it really is a whole other dimension. But when your questions of “What did you do at school today?” at pick up constantly get answered with “I don’t know” or “I forgot”, it can be rather confusing to know where and how to support your child at school! Also, nobody wants to be known as the pushy parent, but still, supporting your child at primary school
without actually doing it for them is what we’re all aiming for here, right?And because as usual I’m full of all the questions, today I’ve invited Cognitive Behaviour therapist Leann Middlemass and fellow school mum and tutor Nasreen Stewart to help us understand better exactly what we should be doing to support our school age children. Perfect timing for back to school! Read on to find out….
Have meals together Having meals together
where each child gets to talk about their day allows them to unload emotions. If the parent goes first hopefully a relationship is built where the child may feel its okay to talk about an issues they are having.
Listen, listen, listen
When listening to your child
do not put your perspective on things. This is their life and how they view it. There feeling right or wrong are still their feelings. And as parents even if we say we understand- truly we do not for the feeling of one child may differ greatly with another.“Yep”, “I hear you” and “Uh hummm”. Three very important words when listening to a child. Sometimes a child may just wish to unload without anyone adding their opinions. This is brilliant for teens
who just wish to vent and do not need your unsolicited advise. This way they feel they are being heard and not judged.
Encouraging your child to read, is essential to their learning. Children should be read to every night, especially when they are young. As they are getting older maybe share the reading, so that you both do some. Find ways to encourage them and motivate them
when they are reading so that it is a fun environment for them. You could put out pop corn and give out blankets so that the kids get all cosy and excited before they take out their books. Just the way we provide these before they watch a film.
Communicate with the school
It is important to have a relationship with your child’s teacher but communication is the key and this can be done through the teacher or you, writing in your child’s homework diary etc. Ask your child and their teacher if they are on track, if not then find ways to help them at home. You can buy books online or just go through some of their school work with them.
Encourage active learning at home
Families continue to be important educators even when they have moved on to school. You can encourage active learning at home through fun games such as Scrabble, Dobble, Rat a Tat Cat and other educational games.
And then there was homework…
The key to homework is to get them to do it as soon as they get it, so that they don’t forget and make sure they are doing it, not you! Quite often parents get too involved and this doesn’t help the child.
Preparing for tests
Children as young as six are stressed about school tests
! When it comes to helping them prepare for a test, always prepare in advance, don’t cram everything in, otherwise this can make them anxious. You can revise by doing fun quiz’s and mini tests at home. Be sure to time them also so they are prepared.So there you have it – some tips to help support your child at school, from one parent who is still trying to figure it out! What do you think of the tips above? Or perhaps you have some of your own to share? Do leave a comment below.