Recently I’ve had a lot of conversations with fellow parents about the good vs the bad times of parenting. We all know by now that parenting is damn hard work, and that we are fueled through the bad times by those lovely good times which are like absolute gold dust.
In said conversations, we were trying to work out the percentage of the good vs the bad times if we are really – and yes I mean REALLY – honest about it. Because while being a parent is amazing on so many levels, it sure as hell ain’t like the movies.
And so we started to bound around some figures. What was the proportion of the s**t we have to put up with on a daily basis to revel in the glorious good times?
10% good times versus 90% utter crap – that seems too harsh, don’t you think?
30% good times versus 70% get me outta here moments – hmmm could potentially be a little optimistic, unless you happen to be on a very good run of it which of course does sometimes happen in the land of parent dreams!
20% good times versus 80% total drudgery – hmmmm now that seems a little more realistic don’t you think?
And so, the 80:20 rule of parenting was born. We can basically expect 80% of screaming, whining, early wake ups, illness and general hair-tearing experience in order to receive a beautiful 20% warm fuzzy precious moments, smiles, snuggles, heart-melts and those lightbulb yes! this is why I became a parent! instances.
Funnily enough the 80:20 rule of parenting also works quite well in a slightly different translation: if you’re getting it right 80% of the time, and screwing it up 20% of the time (because even good parents make bad mistakes) you’re probably doing pretty well at this parent game. And if you’re getting a 20% return in good times as a reward, well, that’s winning in life as far as a parent is concerned.
What do you think your good vs bad in parenting split it? Do leave a comment and share.
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