The 15 hardest things about being a mum

hardest things about being a mum

It’s not exactly a newsflash that being a mum is one of the hardest things known to womankind, but what exactly is it that makes being a mum so hard? I’m pretty sure it’s not one single thing – but more the sum of all parts. And so I’ve come together with fellow parent bloggers to round up the 15 hardest things about being a mum here, so everybody knows they are no alone in feeling this!

1. Judgement & justification

The hardest thing about being a mum is constantly having to justify your parenting choices – be that to breastfeed, co-sleep, babywear or formula feed, sleep in their own bed and use a buggy! We make the choices that are best for our families at that time and it’s really no-one elses’ business to make me feel bad about that. -Something About Baby 

2. Dealing with emotions

You’re happy, tired, sad etc. It’s such a whirlwind. –  All About A Mini Norris 

3. The constant good enough struggle

You’re always questioning if you are good enough and if there are things you could do better. – Katy Gibson 

4. The drudgery

Going from having a fairly equal relationship to one where you’re (quite reasonably) in charge of dealing with a lot of boring housework is a massive shock to the system! – Bammboo

5. Working mum guilt

As a working mum, it’s the guilt that comes with it. You always feel like you’re never giving 100% of yourself at home or at work. Wherever you are, there’s always something youwill be missing. – Bridie By The Sea

6. Learning to trust your mummy instincts

In a multimedia world where there is so much advice/opinion it’s hard to know what to follow. Often I have felt that something was wrong and not felt I have pushed for support in it as I am ‘just a first time Mum’ but over the 2 years my boy has been in this world I have grown stronger in listening to my gut. I have been right on many occasions now so have learnt to nod at advice and then push forward anyway. – Mummy Est 2014

7. Never being able to switch off

It’s hard not to miss the days of being able to completely shut yourself off from everyone and everything when you’re facing a bad day. If everything is getting too much, you can’t run away from it all. – Life With Boys 

The 15 hardest things about being a mum

8. Bringing up a teenager

The hardest thing I’ve experienced so far is bringing up a teenager!! Creating and nurturing a mini adult!! So challenging and rewarding. – Life With The Peppers

9. The constant worrying

Constant worrying plus the age difference between children brings completely different worries. My eldest is 19 and my youngest is 4. I also still worry that still even after 5 children ‘am I doing everything right’! –  Mum of Five Staying Sane 

10. The tiredness

Especially when your child has had bad night, you’re unwell unwell, work needs doing and you’ve got to do chores & have to feed the family  too! – Katy Kicker  

11. Keeping up with the changes

Just as you’ve figured out one challenge another comes up – or the original challenge gets even harder. I hate feeling like I don’t know what to do most of the time because my children are changing faster than I can come up with strategies to deal with those changes! – The Ish Mother

12. Trying not to shout

I find the hardest thing is avoiding shouting and finding the energy to follow through with setting boundaries/consequences. I know I shouldn’t shout and I hate myself afterwards but if I’m tired and stressed I just can’t help it and then it kicks off a cycle of everyone being in a bad mood. Which makes all the shouting happen even more! And the kids need boundaries but enforcing consequences or having the patience and energy to avoid situations where consequences are needed in the first place is tricky. I went on a parenting course which I found very useful, but I still need some energy and time and support to make it work! – Mummy Is A Gadget Geek

13. Watching them grow up

Seeing them grow stronger and more independent. Time goes way too fast and not being needed 24/7 is hard, but also wonderful to see them flourish. Bittersweet. – Kelly Allen Writer

14. The loss of independence

The hardest thing for me was the loss of independence. I really struggled with that. That and being solely responsible for such a tiny harmless thing. – The Smallest of Things 

15. Lack of support

Lack of support I think. I often think about how much easier it would be if I had ‘a village’ of women around me who helped. I may be glorifying it but it seems like being a mum would be much easier if it was all hands on deck. – Nomi Palony 

Which elements of being a mum have you found the hardest? Do leave a comment and share.

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  1. This is all soon true… It is super hard being a Mom… my worst things are the lack of time. Never having enough time to do the multitudinous things that need to be achieved! And the guilt… the judgement and the guilt. Its like its built into the framework of being a Momma… <3 If you ever need a contributor to these posts lovely don't hesitate to give me a shout! [email protected]

  2. It’s certainly true – us mums spend so much (probably too much) time worrying about various things! Never being able to switch off is my biggest issue.

    Helen x

  3. YES completely agree about trusting your mum instincts. It took me a while to trust myself when I was a new mum but my instincts are always right – I needed more confidence x

  4. Great post, I feel all of these especially the mummy guilt, loss if independence and trying not to shout. It really is hard being a mummy sometimes! Reassuring to know lots of people feel and find the same things though.

  5. I can’t even imagine how tough it is being a mum. You shouldn’t be made to feel guilty for working and for your choices, you make them because they work best for you and your family x

  6. The mum guilt is the worst! I don’t find listening to my instincts difficult though, regardless of the ‘advised’ way of doing things I know my children best and not everyone fits in the same box.

  7. I’m a bit late to the party but glad I had chance to read this. Parenthood is so challenging but it’s nice to read that everyone has the same challenges so you aren’t alone x

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