The key to finding stillness (and kindness) as a busy mum

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Did you know that tomorrow marks the beginning of the National Day of Unplugging? If there’s one thing we mums so desperately need to do once in a while to maintain our sanity, it’s unplug! But in this busy mum life, it’s easier said than down. While totally unplugging might be a tall ask, finding stillness for a few moments during the day might be more achievable.

Here’s another fun fact for you – do you know that stillness and kindness are actually something of a power couple? With all of that in mind, today we have thought leader Diana Cole here to share her three steps to finding stillness and kindness all in one fell swoop.

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As mothers, we are all too familiar with feeling like we have to “do it all” on any given day — get kids up, fed, and off to school (or logged in to their virtual classrooms); pick kids up from school and help them with their homework; navigate kids’ extracurriculars and emotional needs; feed them dinner and get them off to bed. And that’s just scratching the surface of their needs!

When you start adding in the needs of your career, your partner, your parents, and the other important people and responsibilities in your life, it can sometimes feel like your own needs start to become a dim flicker in the corner. Is it any wonder, then, that we often find ourselves feeling stretched thin and short-tempered with the world?

Stress, exhaustion, and busyness can have a negative impact on how we speak and relate to others — including ourselves. Fortunately, there is an incredibly helpful practice that can refill our coffers and reorient us towards a more joyful way of speaking, living, and being.

The antidote to feeling like you’re moving too fast to give much thought to how you express your being in the world is finding stillness. By finding stillness, we give ourselves an opportunity to reconnect with our innate kindness. Together, stillness and kindness are a power couple that can shift our whole experience of life for the better.

3 Steps to Tap Into Kindness By Finding Stillness

Practicing kindness toward yourself and others can completely reframe your outlook on life. It can positively alter your perception, and therefore your priorities. Your circumstances soften, and you become lighter and generally happier when you are living in kindness. One of the best ways to achieve this is finding stillness.

  1. Take a few minutes to sit quietly and tap into stillness: no thought, no motion, no worry about another place to be or another place to go to. Just breathe and be.
  • Stillness, sooner or later, allows the noise of the mind to soften into silence. You will experience the calm confidence that comes from knowing yourself, and discover a refreshing feeling of kindness that is already there waiting for you, just waiting to renew your relationship with yourself and the people you encounter. Kindness and gratitude naturally come bubbling up from a well of love deep within you when you are still.
  • Allow the kindness to come. Allow it to melt away the mental activities of judging, comparing, and worrying that may have depleted you in the past. Let that kindness redirect your thoughts, words, and actions. I assure you, joy will follow.

If you find yourself thinking that you can’t possibly make time for finding stillness, start by finding five minutes, then increase to 10 or 15. Gifting yourself with this much-needed time benefits everyone in your life. The more regularly you practice stillness, the more easily you will tap into kindness as you go about your days.

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I hope the above inspires you to try and unplug from this crazy mum life in your own little way by finding stillness. Whether you take five, ten or fifteen minutes for yourself – how ever little and even if it means hiding in the loo! – this small change can have a huge impact on your life not to mention the ripple effects onto those around you.

About Diana Cole

Diana Cole is a spirit translator, thought leader, and author. Passionate about spirit guidance, she is committed to teaching people how to access it for themselves so they may find freedom from pain and limitation and live a life of abundance, fun, and inspiration.

Diana offers her empowering tools for spirit guidance in group settings, speaking engagements, live workshops, and through her vibrant Instagram and Facebook communities. She is the author of “Spirit Translator: Seven Truths for Creating Well-Being and Connecting With Spirit” (St. Martin’s Press, August 2020) and coauthor of “Pillars of Success” (August 2020) with Jack Canfield. Diana’s first children’s book is “Alina the Positive Thought Warrior.” Learn more at www.DianaCole.com.

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