Let’s face it…as mums, we face plenty of roadblocks in our lives. Chuck a pandemic into the mix and we feel absolutely stuck in the mud. So what can we do to move forward when we’re feeling stuck in life? Here we share 9 tips for overcoming roadblocks in your life courtesy of life strategist and full-time mum Sherri DeCorby.
If you are longing to complete your goals but feel too selfless, broken or simply do not believe you know how to accomplish the things you wish you had then read on…
9 tips for overcoming roadblocks in your life
Abolish the Mum Guilt and Say No
Guilt is such an incredible waste of energy, so stop it. It does not serve you or your family. It is a wasted emotion, instead, find and focus on a solution. For example, sometimes the drive thru at the closest fast food joint is your best decision. The children see it as a treat and you save on the prep, dishes and headache of making yet another meal. You are a visionary and you need to use your precious time wisely.
Stop Apologizing
I hear women apologizing all the time. Just stop it. Own who you are and be proud of your choices. If this means you walk alone until you find your people, then do it. In the long run, you will be much happier surrounded by people who encourage your vision. If you do not have time to bake cookies for the school meeting or you just hate baking, then grab store-bought cookies. Who the hell cares? Make sure you don’t apologize for it!
Set Boundaries and Tell People Know Where You Stand
This one also supports the idea of stop apologizing. If you are very clear about where you stand and what you will and will not accept, then you will command the respect of others. People may not agree with your ideas, but they will respect your ability to stand by those ideas and not apologize for them. This is also about letting others know where your moral compass lies and having integrity. Never compromise your morals or conduct yourself in a way that loses integrity.
Create a Strategy for Achieving Your Goals
If you schedule into your week the time to work on your vision, just like you do with date night and reading to your children, you will find success. It becomes about the consistent daily effort in developing a part of you. You can be the best mother and a visionary, but you cannot keep putting off the time you need to create.
Make Time to be Organized
I get up early because I like to have that extra time in the morning for myself. I like to make my children hot breakfast and get them ready for their day in a relaxed morning environment. I like to do my hair so I shower and get ready before they are up. I used to leave for their school early so we did not have to arrive late and stressed.
Now I am homeschooling, so we get up, relax, and then I focus on them until lunchtime. I plan my groceries and make dinner to be on the table early so we have lots of time for our bedtime routine. I know that I am a nightmare if I am not organized so I need to do these things for me. I see myself being more proactive than reactive with this approach. This is what works for me you need to carve your own path.
Create the Time to Connect with Nature
It is vital to my well-being that I exercise or at the very least go for a walk daily. Usually, I do this with my children after we have finished school work. It helps the physical well-being but it does wonders for the mental well-being. Many road blocks can be removed simply by a walk through the forest. I find myself full of gratitude and this often gives me a fresh perspective. It amazes me how it can remove so many concerns of the day by improving everyone’s’ moods.
Stop Worrying about What People Think of You
Quite frankly, other peoples’ opinions of you are none of your business. I see women exerting far too much energy thinking about others’ opinions of them. Become stronger than the woman who always needs approval. Women who achieve greatness are visionaries, we leave people in our tracks standing with jaws wide open. When someone is staring at you tell yourself that they are in awe of your charisma and strength, so you should be proud!
Say What You Are Going to Do and Do It
Your word is everything. If you say you are going to do something then you better damn well do it. If people cannot trust your word, then you have no foundation to build integrity. Your children need to see you honour your agreements. You are teaching them and by following this you will find yourself with less roadblocks in your way (especially in the long-run).
Understand Your Priorities
There are times that I would rather be chilling with my children and watching a movie but instead I am working on my vision and this is okay. It is not okay to put others before what is most important to you. For example, cancel the meeting because your child has the flu and needs you. You have conducted yourself with integrity and made your priorities very clear so others will not even ask you to compromise on them.
I always try to accommodate, but never if it means a sacrifice in my priorities and values. I have found that people no longer ask things of me that put me in this position because they know what the answer will be.
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We hope you found these times on overcoming roadblocks valuable. If you’re feeling stuck, then why not try these strategies to break through the roadblocks in your life?
About Sherri DeCorby
Sherri is a life strategist who focuses specifically on women who are going through a transitional phase in their life, but are longing to complete the goals they set for themselves, but don’t know how or never accomplished them. For many women, there is a point when they become selfless (marriage or motherhood), or feel broken (divorced or let go from their job), and do not believe, or know how to accomplish the things they wish they had.
Having not only built and sold multiple multi-million dollar businesses, but Sherri is also a full-time mother and wife, whose husband is only home a couple of weeks of the year due to running a successful business. She has obtained both the business and emotional acumen to help women from dreaming about their goals to making them done!
Whether it is a woman going through a divorce, a new mother, or recently unemployed, Sherri is here to help them through their transition and prove that no matter what phase of life you are in, your goals are still achievable! Find out more at dreamtodonecoaching.com.
