Here we are all together standing in front of a shiny brand new year. So of course now is the time to talk New Year Resolutions. Except I’m not going to start waffling on about weight loss, or being more organised, or any of that malarkey. Instead, let’s talk about real New Year Resolutions every mum should make. What are those? I hear you ask. Well, they go something like this:
Be kinder to yourself
You, yes you mama! No more belittling of yourself, feeling you are not mum enough, or negative self talk. Put all of that and chuck it in a big old virtual cardboard box marked “archive”. This is the year we all need to be kinder to ourselves and recognise that we are all doing the best we can.
Take five minutes to yourself
OK, maybe this might seem difficult but even if it means sitting down and enjoying that cup of coffee in the morning before you get on with doing a bajillion things, or going to bed an extra five minutes early and doing some deep breathing there then do it. Here are some other ways you can take five minutes to yourself.
Say ‘no’ more
It’s not that I am a ‘no’ person, hell I like saying yes, but sometimes we can just keep saying yes to the detriment of our wellbeing. So make this the year of not saying ‘yes’, but being realistic about what you can do and take on, and not being afraid to say ‘no’!
F*** it! Do what you love
Remember that pre-mum self of yours? Come on, sure you do. Remember all the things she used to love doing when she had that elusive thing you now know called spare time? Well bring back a little bit of her. Remember the thing that you loved to do and make a little corner in your world this year to start doing what you love again. Because you deserve it.
Love thy body
Let this be the year when we finally come to embrace our post baby bodies – folds, flaps, sags and all. Our bodies did something amazing, and nobody should ever make us feel ashamed of that.
Hey, life is all about the 80:20 rule. It’s ok to have some chocolate, enjoy some wine or prosecco, or whatever your guilty pleasure is. If it’s the 20 of the 80, then that’s totally cool and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
I know this is a tough one to pull of when we are surrounded by sleep thieves but seriously, sleep is so important to wellbeing. If you’re still having broken nights and early wake ups then PLEASE, fill in the sleep gaps by going to bed that little bit earlier and having a reverse lie in. Your entire mind and body will thank you for it.
You, yes YOU! You have put in a lot of hard work in this mum life so whatever it is that you fancy a bit of – those red boots in Zara, a new coat, hell…..a new blender. Whatever you are hankering for you only live once so go on and treat yourself and don’t you dare go feeling guilty about it because you have more than earned it!
You know, because we forget to on a daily basis.
Distance yourself from anyone who makes you feel like a turd
Haters will be haters, and it’s a sad fact there are a lot of negative, miserable, energy sucking people out there. Put them all in a virtual trash can and surround yourself with people who make you feel good only.
So there you go, my real New Year Resolutions for mums everywhere across the land. I think you’ll agree they are quite refreshing compared to the usual bum fluff that gets plastered around the internet at this time of year. Could you live by them this year? Do share a comment below.