As a professional blogger and work at home mum, I’ve had this sneaking suspicion that the notion of being a work at home mum is not the big ideal that everyone has been led to believe. Before I go on, I have to say that I am massively grateful for the flexibility it has provided me with – the fact that I can both work and do the school drop off and pick up and be there for my daughter when she needs me, but it’s not all rosy in the garden of the work at home mum.
The modern day work at home mum goes straight from getting the kids ready for school, to making them breakfast, to harassing them out of the door onto the school run, to sweating bullets getting them to school on time, to racing back to the desk to nail her deadlines and targets.
She bashes out her work, taking a 5 minute lunch break when she usually fixes herself a mediocre lunch and puts the latest heap of laundry in the washing pile on. She races on through her work until school pick up when she has all of five minutes to switch out of work mode into mum mode, trying as hard as she can to be present and not let the unfinished work tempting her from her laptop or the house stuff that needs to be done encroach on those precious afternoon hours, before fixing dinner.
The modern day mum doesn’t get to switch off after bed time – but spends her evening fixing the house, mopping up the rest of her emails lest she drown in them the following morning, before slumping in front of Netflix. The repeat adinfinitum.
Although fulfilled, she is operating on a bajillion miles an hour as she tries to cram two crazy days and existences into one.
We hear it all the day, “you’re so lucky to be a work at home mum!”. And in many ways, I do feel that I am lucky, but there is a massive flip side to that too. Because being a working mum is hard, but being a work at home mum is also very hard too. We are not just sitting around sipping coffee in our PJs whilst lying on the bed tapping at our keyboards. If only!
Being a work at home mum, there’s no going to work and shutting off the mum life because you’re still in the family home. And you’re not a stay at home mum who can focus solely on her kids and the house because you have a pile of work to do that would make Mount Everest look like a dwarf. You are stuck somewhere in between the two, telling yourself that you’d rather this than either of the other two, and it’s true….you would.
But that doesn’t take away from the fact that being a work at home mum is still damn hard work. So here’s to every working mum, and every work at home mum. You are a mum, you are a woman, you are a savvy time manager, you’re a multi-tasking pro, you are self-motivated, and you work when you open your eyes to when you close your eyes.
Are you a work at home mum? Can you relate to the above? Do share in a comment below. And for more on the modern day mum struggle see this post on the 15 hardest things about being a mum.
And if you’re a work at home mum looking to get some better balance in your life, why not check out my work at home mum tips video here: